2-14-12 Happy Valentine's Day Ellie Mae

Sorry it has been soo long since I have updated the blog life has been busy...lol  I have a lot of updates so I will start from the beginning...

January 6, 2012 - Ellie's First Hair cut!!  She LOVED IT!!

January 14, 2012 - Ellie's first Birthday Party
We had Ellie's first birthday party at the hall in Grandma's Debbie's church in Ohio.  Talk about a party for a princess...OMG I don't think a toy store has as many toys as Ellie does now...lol

Ellie LOVED her birthday cake...

(video of her eating cake coming soon...)

January 24, 2012 - HAPPY BIRTHDAY ELLIE MAE

I can not believe she is already 1 year old...where did this last year go!!

February 6, 2012
Ellie visited the Orthopedic surgeon to check out her knees and her hips to make sure everything is as it should be.  The Dr was amazed at how strong Ellie is.  She said that most babies that have down syndrome do not walk until they are almost 2 and she believes that Ellie will be walking within the next couple of months.  She also said that Ellie's hips look great and she has loosey goosey knees.  She said she is not worried though she will build the strength in her legs and it should not require her to have braces.  YEAH  Praise Jesus!!  She has to go back in a year to make sure there are no changes.

February 13, 2012 - Ellie pulled herself up to standing using the couch all by herself.

February 14, 2012 - Happy Valentine's Day Ellie Mae!!!

Ellie is growing and changing everyday.  She amazes us, her doctors, and her therapists.  We set goals for her to reach within a month and she reaches them within a month.  She is incredibly smart.  She is able to solve problems and communicate what she needs.  She is the most adorable baby (I'm a little bias)...lol

God has been good to us, the power of prayer is real.  Ellie has overcome many things in her short year.  I know we will be ok.  God's hand is on little Ellie Mae as well as the rest of the family.  He has put her in the care of amazing doctors and therapist that listen and are concerned about what's going on in Ellie's world.  They are on the little details.  Not to mention the prayers for her.  Through God ALL things are possible.  Heidi had a dream when Ellie was still in my belly.  She dreamed that Kenny was playing with Kaylee and Ellie outside and Ellie was running and playing with no signs of down syndrome.  I get goose bumps to think that God is at work already.  Look at how great Ellie is doing.  She is scoring right at the normal range for all children (typical and with disabilities) that is no accident.  God is good ALL THE TIME!!

Thank you for your continued prayers and love for our whole family.

1-1-12 Ellie's first Christmas and New Years

Before I talk about the holidays I want to let you know where Ellie is at now...

She is sitting up all by herself and sitting herself up all by herself.  She sits up by laying on her belly and bringing her legs completely around to the front of her and then pushing up with her arms.  She reminds me of a gymnast when she does it.  It is soo cute.

She is saying la la, da da, ba ba, and making all the major sounds, short a, o, u, and long a, o as well as the oo sound.  Yesterday I was feeding her and she kept trying to grab the food.  I told her no very sternly and she cracked up laughing at me...lol  It made me laugh soo hard...I probably will not think it is funny when she is a little older.  She is growing so fast.  She is weighing in at 16.9lbs  and  we have not measured her yet.  She is wearing size 6-9 month clothes and wearing size 3 diapers.  She is eating regular foods grind-ed up in small pieces so she can eat it.  I think she is finally cutting her first tooth. She has been teething since she was born with no results!!  She is drinking formula in a bottle and regular cows milk in a sippy cup with a straw.

I can not believe how well she is doing.  She is very curious about the world around her.  I do not worry about her diagnosis anymore.  She is going to be fine and do great things I can just feel it.  God has a special plan for her.  

As far as Christmas goes...she was very interested in the paper around the presents but was not very interested in the presents themselves.  Her favorite toy was a xylophone/piano alligator.  She loves to bang on the keys.  As far as New Years goes...she passed out before the ball dropped.

Thank you for praying for Ellie.  She is a miracle from God.  I can not believe the wonderful things she has done for our family and she is only 11 months old.  I speak from experience, God does not make mistakes...he knows what he is doing.  I was soo worried when I first got the news when I was only 21 weeks pregnant.  If I only knew there wasn't anything to worry about.  Thank you Lord for your continued love for our family.

12-5-11 My First Year

Dear Mommy,

I am almost 11 months old and I have to say this has been one heck of a year!!

I remember when I first heard your voice.  I wasn't sure what I was hearing but after listening for awhile I realized you were crying.  I was unsure why you were crying until I heard your prayers to God.  You prayed for God to let me be okay, you prayed to have God heal my heart, you prayed for God not to take me home with him.  You were soo worried about me. I didn't understand why you were soo worried because I knew everything would be okay.  God has a special plan for me.  He needed me to have surgery so I could bring everyone together.  I heard you asking everyone to pray.  I heard you say there were hundreds of people praying for me.  People who didn't know you, people who didn't know me, people who cared and loved us just because.  I tried to reassure you that I would be okay by kicking you but you would just rub where I kicked and sing me a song.  You had a special song for me.  One that you said was just my song.  You would also wrap your belly in a prayer blanket.  I want you to know that I felt the warmth from that blankets love and prayers.

I was soo excited to see you and daddy when I was born.  I wanted to see the faces to match the voices I heard.  When I saw you for the first time you and daddy were crying.  I wanted to reach up and grab your face and tell you everything would be okay but my arms wouldn't move like I wanted them to and all that came out of my mouth was a cry.  That made you smile.  I wasn't sure why but I realized that you thought I wasn't going to live and when I cried you realized I was okay.  You held me soo close.  I fell asleep instantly.

I spent the next few months enveloped in your arms.  It was the safest place I could image.  You and daddy kept talking about surgery.   You talked about Down Syndrome.  I heard you praying for a miracle healing.  You had many people pray over me.  I do not know what Down Syndrome is but I knew that I was ok and what ever you were worrying about would be ok.  I knew Gods plan for me.  I needed to have the surgery to fix my heart and I knew it needed to happen to bring everyone soo close together.  I also knew that everything would be okay.  God has a plan for me.  I am going to be someone special in the lives of everyone who knows me.  I am going to show many people what it means to love and be loved.  I was sad to see you so worried about me but I wasn't scared.  I was excited for the adventure.

When it came time for surgery.  Everyone was crying; except me.  I went with my doctors and they put me to sleep and when I woke up I had everyone around me and I had tubes sticking out of me.  I am sure I looked scary but I felt much better.  My heart wasn't working as hard and I could feel the change.  I know you never left my side.  I knew I was safe.  I saw everyone who came.  I could not believe how many people love me.  This was my new beginning.  My heart birthday!   I went to sleep and awoke many times and saw you near me each time.  I am sorry I didn't let you sleep much.  I was all thrown off schedule from the medicine they had me on.







Since my surgery we have smiled a lot.  I have a team of people who make sure I am healthy and developing the way I should.  I wish you would believe that every child doesn't grow the same way.  Please do not worry.  I will crawl, walk, and talk.  Keep believing in me and supporting my development.  I am soo lucky to be with you, daddy, my bubby, and my sissy.  I love you all soo much.  Thank you for never giving up on me.  Thank you for helping me and loving me.  I am amazed everyday at the level I am blessed.

Well...Mommy, I am getting tired.  I am going to go to bed.  I am a happy baby...because you love me....I can not wait till I can tell you I love you...for now...I will say it with my smiles...love you mommy and daddy....good night sleep tight...

Love
Ellie

November 5, 2011 - Happy Halloween - Dear Ellie

I was watching Ellie sleep tonight and was thinking so many things as I was looking at her that I decided to write a letter to her, another mom on here does it all the time and I felt the need to write one to Ellie...here goes

Dear Ellie,
You are soo beautiful!!  I love you more each day.  I know there are people out who do not understand your diagnosis or what it would mean to have a beautiful son/daughter like you join their family and they are scared.  I wish we could tell them how wonderful you are.  I wish you could tell them how happy you are and how happy we are to have you with us.  I wish they could feel this love.  Your smile lightens my day, your laughter brightens my week.  I can not imagine loving you more but each day I seem to feel that I love you more then the day before.  You amaze me with your abilities and heart.  You are only 9 months old yet you have control over everyone in the house and beyond.  You have a captive audience of people dying to hear the next update, dying to know how you are doing and what new trick you have learned.  All you have to do is squawk and everyone turns to look at you.  As of right now you are sitting independently, rolling all over the floor, feeding yourself treats, playing with your toys trying your best to crawl, and demanding attention when no one is looking at you.  I just couldn't imagine life without you.  Your beautiful smile melts me.  I can not wait to see the woman you will grow into be.  You are an angel....you were sent to me to show me how blessed we truley are.  I thank the Lord for you everyday!

 Happy Halloween

Pumpkin Patch

Pumpkin Patch

Trick or Treat

Everyone's Pumpkins for this year!!  Mommy carved your

pumpkin in the shape of a cross with a heart in the middle of it

to represent how God has you (and your heart) in his hands.

We had sooo much fun this fall going to pumpkin patches, trick-or-treating and carving pumkins.  You are soo curious about everything.  You are determined to get what you want...I can not wait to see how you react to these events when you get a little bit bigger.  I love you...Little Bitty!!

Ohhh...I know it is early but I think we finally picked a name for your Down Syndrome of Lousiville Buddy walk next year...we are going to be Ellie's Angels and wear halos and wings.  I am soo excited.  So many people are going to be there to walk with you to support DSL.  It will be soo much fun!!  I love you Ellie Mae...Sweet Dreams.

Love Mommy

10-13-2011 - it will be ok

I hope this finds you in a place where you are ready to recieve what I am writting.  I am talking to parents who discover that their baby will require heart surgery and may or may not have down syndrome.  I want to tell anyone who is facing the same road we are now traveling...IT will be ok...it doesn't feel like it right now...but it will be ok...

I have the need to share the way I was feeling in September 2010 when I found out that my unborn baby was going to be born with a heart defect that will require surgery and 50% of babies born with this heart condition also had down syndrome.  I was supposed to be going to find out that my baby was a girl and then go shopping for cutsie little pink outfits and clothes.  I was unprepared for this diagnosis, something that I had not imagined would ever happen to me.  This stuff happens to other people, not me.  I spent the next few weeks crying.  Crying for myself, crying for the life of my baby, crying for her future, crying because I didn't know what this diagnosis really meant or what it really would look like, or how others would treat me and my baby, crying because there was nothing I could do to "fix" it, and fearing that I would not see my baby as beautiful.  I struggled with knowing and not knowing.  I prayed for a miracle healing.  I prayed for God to just let me have her.  I feared she would not make it through delivery and then if she did I feared she wouldn't make it through surgery.  I was ashamed of some of my thoughts and worries.  I was ashamed of some of my feelings.  I felt soo alone, even though I had a support network beyond explanation.  I felt like no one understood what I was going through.  No one really understood my dreams of the "perfect" baby were shattered.
Her delivery brought mixed feelings, excitement for the arrival of my baby girl, fear that I would finally have to face the reality of whatever happens once she was born (would she live/die, would she have down syndrome or not) and guilt for not feeling anything but joy.  I cried though the delivery...not because it hurt, but because I was scared.  Scared of facing reality.  When she was born and I held her in my arms and saw she was alive, she was moving, and breathing, and ALIVE...I held her closer and longer.  I didn't want her to go away.  I wanted her right here with me.  I wanted to protect her.  I wanted everyone to love her.  At this point we didn't know if she had down syndrome, but that was not the major concern.  What kept me up at night worrying was that soon she would have to go through a massive open heart surgery.  Someone would cut her open on purpose to fix her heart.  I struggled with this one all the way through till she was 5 months and old enough to have the surgery.  For now, I had her in my arms and I wanted to do everything I could to make sure she survived the surgery.  We added her to EVERY prayer chain you can imagine.  We started prayer chains on facebook, we added her to prayer chains on the web, and through word of mouth.  There were soo many people praying for my sweet Ellie Mae.
Jumping ahead...Ellie's surgery...brought soo many fears and MANY more tears.  My biggest fear through all of this was loosing her.  Everything else we could work through.  I couldn't handle loosing her.  I repeated OVER and OVER...please don't take her God...please let me have her...please let that be your will.  It was his will.  We spent 11 days in the hospital and she did wonderfully.  We have our beautiful baby girl and she will grow up and grow old and we will be fine.  The diagnosis is scary because you do not know what it really means, or what it looks like.  No parent wants their child to have to have a surgery, a disability, or both.  your feelings are ok, it is normal to have these feelings.  I wouldn't change anything about my beautiful baby girl.  My little Ellie is a blessing to our family  She has brought us closer together and closer to God.  I still do not know what raising her will look like, but I don't know what raising my other two children will look like either  No one is guaranteed anything.  All I know is I will love her and my other two children and do the best I can for them.  When I look at my little Ellie Mae, I do not see a baby with down syndrome, I see my perfect miracle from God.  Her smile is beyond words, her laughter is enough to break you into tears.  I never imagined loving a human being as much as we all love her.  Please know once, you get past the initial shock of everything, you will be happy beyond words.  You will have a new outlook on life and a peace beyond words.  You will be ok, your baby will be ok, God will bless you as he blessed my family...with our extra chromosome....My prayers are with you for strength and peace.

Here is a story that explains the emotions you feel...I did not write it....but I clung to it the first few weeks...

WELCOME TO HOLLAND!!!

WELCOME TO HOLLAND

I am often asked to describe the experience of raising a child with a disability - to try to help people who have not shared that unique experience to understand it, to imagine how it would feel. It's like this......
When you're going to have a baby, it's like planning a fabulous vacation trip - to Italy. You buy a bunch of guide books and make your wonderful plans. The Coliseum. The Michelangelo David. The gondolas in Venice. You may learn some handy phrases in Italian. It's all very exciting.
After months of eager anticipation, the day finally arrives. You pack your bags and off you go. Several hours later, the plane lands. The stewardess comes in and says, "Welcome to Holland."
"Holland?!?" you say. "What do you mean Holland?? I signed up for Italy! I'm supposed to be in Italy. All my life I've dreamed of going to Italy."
But there's been a change in the flight plan. They've landed in Holland and there you must stay.
The important thing is that they haven't taken you to a horrible, disgusting, filthy place, full of pestilence, famine and disease. It's just a different place.
So you must go out and buy new guide books. And you must learn a whole new language. And you will meet a whole new group of people you would never have met.
It's just a different place. It's slower-paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you've been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around.... and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills....and Holland has tulips. Holland even has Rembrandts.
But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy... and they're all bragging about what a wonderful time they had there. And for the rest of your life, you will say "Yes, that's where I was supposed to go. That's what I had planned."
And the pain of that will never, ever, ever, ever go away... because the loss of that dream is a very very significant loss.
But... if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn't get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things ... about Holland.

by
Emily Perl Kingsley.

c1987 by Emily Perl Kingsley. All rights reserved

October 8, 2011 - Videos of Ellie today 8 months old

 After my post I was cracking up laughing over Ellie's noises and I said to myself..I should put some on the blog for everyone to enjoy...so here they are!!

ENJOY!!!

October 8, 2011 - updates

Sorry it has been so long since I have blogged, but life has gotten a little crazy since school started back up.

Since the last blog...

Ellie had her 6 month re-evaluation with her interventionists.  The assessment they gave her is an assessment they give to all children, not just children with disabilities.  The normal scoring range is between 90 and 110.  Ellie scored a 89.  She is one point below the normal scoring range!!  They believe the only reason she didn't score in the normal range is because she was laid up for several weeks when she had her open heart surgery and if she would have been able to work on skills during that time she would have scored in the normal range.  I was told that the intervention that is offered now for babies with DS is more intense then it used to be and they notice a HUGE impact on the development of children with DS long term. There is no one magic pill but they say some things that can have an impact on her development are fish oil, vitamins, and florestore.  Babies with DS tend to stop producing the oily substance in their brain and the fish oil can replace that helping their brain to process quicker.  Children with DS tend to become sick more often so taking vitamins and florestore can help prevent many of these sicknesses and help her to stay on track with development instead of being laid up with an illness.  We are doing all of these things.  She is receiving developmental intervention and physical therapy as well as taking all of these supplements to help her development.  Her biggest advantage is the prayers that are with her.  There are soo many people praying and loving this little girl.  She is definitely in the hands of the father!!  Thank you Jesus for my beautiful baby's progress.

We participated in the Down Syndrome of Louisville On the Move Buddy Walk.  We weren't sure what it was all about so this year we just went as a family.  It was AMAZING to see all of the people there.  They had posters of children and adults with DS and pictures of them and their abilities.  It was very hopeful to see.  Anyway...next year we want to form a team to walk with Ellie.  They had all kinds of teams there with really cool themes and names.  Names like Susies superheros  and Patricks Patrol.  We want to come up with a cool theme and team name for Ellie for next year.  We also want to have MANY people on our team.  How awesome would it be to have all those people walking with Ellie to support a program that is going to be working with Ellie for the rest of her life.  The Louisville Metro area has approximately 500 families they serve that have DS that is not to mention the surrounding areas.  I have been told that Ellie is in the best place to grow up with DS.  She has soo many programs and opportunities for her to be independent and work, and live, and be...like everyone else.  God knew the plan to bring us to Lousiville LONG before we Ellie was even a twinkle in my eye.  Anyway...We need help coming up with a name for Ellie's team for next year. Any suggestions are welcome.

Also, recently there was an article in the paper about a little 3 year old boy named Brady.  He was born with DS and a congenital heart defect that required MULTIPLE surgeries.  He passed away during the last surgery he had.  The article went on to explain that many people see children with DS as a burden on the family and society because of their health issues and long term care issues.  However the family argued that the life of little Brady was valued by all who knew him.  In his short years he touched more people with the kind of love we only dream about.  The kind of passion that we have never seen and the drive that can not be detoured.  So many people hear DS during their pregnancy and the thought of termination crosses their mind.  I could not imagine life without Ellie.  I pray that no one ever takes the life a child due to a diagnosis of DS.  They are not a burden, they are a blessing...I cried when I read Brady's story in the paper beause his story hit home.  His final fate was what I had feared for Ellie.  That was not God's will and we are still blessed with my little miracle baby.  Her smile melts me, her laughter brings me to tears.  No matter how tired I am or grumpy I am...one look from her and everything goes away and the world is good again.  Thank you Lord for opening my eyes to what is important.  I wouldn't change one thing about Ellie...I LOVE her and her extra chomosome.  Oh...there was a cool poster up at the DS walk...it said...Friends don't count chomosomes.  AWESOME!!